Awareness and understanding for the Autism community. We need it, we want it. The right thing to do would be to give it to us.
However just because you want something doesn’t mean you deserve it.
It makes me so upset when I hear how those of us with Autism ‘deserve’ everything from Heart Transplants to jobs and housing.
This is not true. We don’t ‘deserve’ anything.
Before you get upset and start calling me names, finish reading please…
If you are robbed you deserve compensation. If you are raped you deserve justice. If you are lied to you deserve the truth. If you work for someone you deserve to be paid.
You only ‘deserve’ something if you are a victim or if you earned it!!
We need to change our message. We need to push for awareness without making ourselves out to be victims. Nothing is owed to us just because we work a little different than others.
When we play this victim card, we belittle ourselves. We paint ourselves as poor little victims. If we are victims then we are to be shown pity. And if we need pity then we are less than whole, less than perfect…broken in some way. Do we really need or want a pity party from the world?
Please don’t get me wrong. My son has an IEP and he gets help in the classroom. Not because he deserves it. No, because we made the school AWARE. Dose this help my son? Yes. Does he rank above other kids because he deserves this help in school? No!
What are we teaching the very world we want to make aware, once we start being the victims? Are we teaching them we can work and hold jobs? Are we teaching them we are worthy of love and respect? I don’t think so.
Would we like understanding and awareness? Yes. Is it owed to us..? Not at all.
We spend so much time and energy promoting awareness to the world about Autism.
This is one of my (many) issues with groups like Autism Speaks. They spend so much time painting Autism as a victimization rather than as uniquely different. I won’t even go into the ways they victimized the families of Autistic people. Painting such a tragic picture of those poor families having to deal with Autism. Whatever…
Maybe we need to spend a little time promoting awareness about our OWN actions and words.
The following was posted on twitter by @GiftsofAutism
“What if the awakening of autism required a critical mass of the world embracing us as God’s Great Gift to them? What might happen if the seal of disapproval on autism was removed? What might happen if for just one day, we could exist in an energy field devoid of negativity, hatred, and anger against the very form of our being?Better yet what might happen if we were treated with great respect and honored as future teachers in the making? What if people started to actively support this process of freedom? Not freedom from our autism, but freedom from the negative thoughts and feelings projected toward autism and those of us who wear this label? What if being a person in autism was seen as exceptional, unique, a person capable of great wisdom and healing powers?”What if??…..Imagine
What IF we saw ourselves the way we wish NT’s would see us…?
Do we want to see ourselves as victims?
We are not victims. We haven’t been wronged. And the world doesn’t owe us anything.
We owe it to ourselves to show the world that we are NOT victims.